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Positive Quotes to Help Brighten Your Day.

1) “There’s nothing wrong with having nothing to say – unless you insist on saying it.” (unknown author)

2) “People can save themselves from many hard falls by refraining from jumping to conclusions.”
(unknown author)

3) “Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.” (unknown author)

4) “Love is like swallowing hot chocolate before it has cooled off. It takes you by surprise at first, but keeps you warm for a long time.” (unknown author)

5) “We live in deeds, not years; in thoughts, not breaths; in feelings, not in figures on a dial. We should count time by heart throbs. He most lives who thinks most, feels the noblest, acts the best.” (David Bailey)

6) “The best method of proving that you have good judgment is by not relying upon it alone.”
(unknown author)

7) “Experience Is a hard teacher because it never tells you in advance what your next lesson will be.”
(unknown author)

8) “There are two ways of meeting difficulties. You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them.” (Phyllis Bottome)

9) “The only way to learn anything thoroughly is by starting at the bottom, unless you are learning how to swim.” (unknown author)

The above quotes are from:
Penny Press Variety Puzzles and Games – March 2011 issue

Posted by Scott Barker- EzineArticles- Expert Author

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Positive Quotes to Help Brighten Your Day.

1) “Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand.” (Mother Teresa)

2) “No rule of success will work if you don’t.” (unknown author)

3) “Great art can’t hold a candle to a kindergarten picture painted with love.” (unknown author)

4) “The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is the extra you put into it.” (unknown author)

5) “Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to the error that counts.” (unknown author)

6) “Life is filled with momentary pleasures: the sting of a good shower waking us up; the transient scent of a flower. Let us never get too busy to notice the simple pleasures in our lives.” (unknown author)

7) “Grief can take care of itself; but to get the full value of a joy you must have somebody to divide it with.” (Mark Twain)

8) “When you are in the right you can afford to hold your temper, and when you are in the wrong, you cannot afford to lose it.” (unknown author)

9) “Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity. (George S. Patton)

10) “Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” (Joseph Addison)

11) “Fortunately for children, the uncertainties of the present always give way to the enchanted possibilities of the future.” (Gelsey Kirkland)

12) “It is generally unwise to raise an issue when one is not prepared to accept the likely response.”
(unknown author)

The above quotes are from:
Penny Press Merit Variety Puzzles and Games – July 2011 issue

Posted by Scott Barker- EzineArticles- Expert Author

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by: N Jay Tow, LMHC  Board Certified Sexologist

 

My approach to working with couples has always started with the following:

 

Two people coming into a relationship with

their own set of issues.  They act out on these

issues within the relationship.

In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the relationship, both people must first work through their own issues.   What both individuals need to work on could range from minor issues or major issues like abuse or other trauma.

Most commonly, people who are having problems in their relationship never learned how to have a healthy relationship.  They grew up in a dysfunctional family with parents who never learned the skills necessary to have a healthy relationship.  Most of us learn how to interact in our close personal relationships by watching our parents.  Without healthy role models, we never learn these skills.

Counseling is a very important ingredient to help learn how to have a better relationship with yourself and others.  If you aren’t feeling good about yourself you can’t have a good relationship.  Learning about how to get needs met or even expressing what your needs are can sometimes require the help of a professional.   This leads to another problem many individuals encounter that negatively affects relationships.  Many people are co-dependent.  Put simply, a co-dependent’s self-esteem is related to the feedback they get from the world.  They work very hard to make sure others like them to the detriment of getting their own needs met.  Unwittingly, they manipulate and try to control others.  They avoid conflict and end up with a feeling of emptiness.

Many people have difficulty with effective communication.  They need to work on expressing themselves and make sure they are understood.  The other part of effective communication is good listening skills.  This is the ability to make sure that you understand what is being communicated to you and the person doing the communicating knows that you understand.

As mentioned earlier, many people have difficulty dealing with conflict and may avoid it totally. All relationships have differences of opinion and conflict.  If someone has difficulty resolving these conflicts or denying they exist, anger and resentment can build and seriously damage the relationship.  Learning conflict resolution skills is important part of having a healthy relationship.

Fear of intimacy or the inability to have a close and intimate relationship will likely be the cause of problems within a relationship.  Individuals who have some or all of the issues mentioned in this article would likely have a problem being emotionally intimate with their partner.  If you are not feeling good about who you are you would likely believe that no one could love you if they knew the “real” you.  A person with self-esteem or co-dependency issues will more likely try to be the person they think another would want them to be.  We all need to learn to be okay with being who we are and sharing that with our partner.

Work through your issues if you want to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

 

Please visit my website for more information.  www.alttherapist.org.

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