How We Influence People With Our Minds

How often have you felt that someone was staring at you? You probably turned around and immediately caught the gaze of the “starer”. Or maybe you’ve unintentionally done this to someone else. What has not been realized until quite recently is that when you focus on another person, either within eyesight or geographically distant, then [...]

On Being Normal

by: N. Jay Tow, LMHC  Board Certified Sexologist Have you ever wondered if you are normal?  Do you spend time comparing yourself to others?  It is not uncommon to have these thoughts because we tend to judge many things as being normal or not normal.  If people don’t perceive themselves as having “acceptable” thoughts, feelings, [...]

Improving Your Marriage May Begin With You

by: N Jay Tow, LMHC  Board Certified Sexologist   My approach to working with couples has always started with the following:   Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues.  They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a [...]

Two Wolves Inside Us All

An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, & ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, & truth.” The boy thought about it, and asked, “Grandfather, which [...]

How to Say No Without Hurting Others Feelings

Sometimes in life we come across situations in which we should’ve said no, but because of different reasons such as being bashful, ashamed or scared, we can’t unwaveringly decline and afterward we regret our weakness. No matter what the circumstances, how can we say no without having to hurt the other person’s feelings? Although it’s [...]