1) “Today a new sun rises for me; Everything lives, everything is animated, everything seems to speak to me of my passion, everything invites me to cherish it.” (Anne de Lenclos)
2) “Even the darkest days can be brightened considerably by a simple act of kindness. Help make someone’s day a bit brighter today.”
(unknown author)
3) “Laugh at yourself first, before anyone else can.” (unknown author)
4) “It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis.”
(unknown author)
5) “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
(Abraham Lincoln)
6) “Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.”
7) “Finding a way to live a simple life is today’s most complicated joy.”
(unknown author)
8) “What you laugh at tells what you really are.”
9) “Truth is a hard master and costly to serve, but it simplifies all problems.” (unknown author)
10) “Most of us would get along better if we followed the advice we give others.” (unknown author)
The quotes above are from Pennypress Classic Variety Puzzles – December 2009 edition.
1) “There is no satisfaction that can compare with looking back across the years and finding you’re grown in self control, judgment, generosity, and unselfishness.” (Ella Wheeler Wilcox)
2) “The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.” (unknown author)
3) “If you want a place in the sun, you have to put up with a few blisters.” (Umberto Eco)
4) “Change is not made without inconveniences, even from worse to better.” (unknown author)
5) “It is easy finding reasons why other folks should be patient.”
(George Eliot)
6) “The past is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift which is why it is called the present.” (unknown author)
7) “Experience is the name everyone gives to his mistakes.”
(unknown author)
8) “The young do not know enough to be prudent, and therefore they attempt the impossible and achieve it generation after generation.”
(Pearl S. Buck)
9) “There are two ways to slide easily through life, to believe everything or to doubt everything. Both ways save us from thinking.”
(unknown author)
10) “Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” (unknown author)
The quotes above are from Pennypress Classic Variety Puzzles – December 2009 edition.
Stress management wouldn’t seem like something that would be a part of setting goals, but it may be the difference between you achieving them and not achieving them.
There is positive stress and negative stress. Positive stress adds anticipation and excitement to life, and we all thrive under a certain amount of stress. Deadlines, competitions, encounters, and even our frustrations and grief’s add profoundness and enrichment to our lives.
Our goal isn’t to eliminate stress, but to find out how to manage it and how to apply it to assistance you accomplish your goals. Insufficient stress acts as a depressant and may leave you feeling bored or depressed; on the other hand, excessive stress may leave you feeling all mixed up inside.
What you need to do is discover the optimal level of stress which will individually motivate but not overwhelm each of us.
How Can I Tell What is Optimal Stress for Me?
There is no single level of stress that is optimal for every person. We are all individual creatures with specific requirements. As such, what is distressful to one may be a pleasure to another.
And even when we agree that a specific event is distressing, we are likely to differ in our physiological and psychological responses to it. That’s just human nature.
The person who loves to arbitrate disputes and moves from job site to job site would be stressed in a job that was stable and regular, whereas the person who thrives under stable conditions would very likely be stressed on a job where responsibilities were highly changed.
Also, our individual stress requirements and the amount which we can tolerate before we become troubled modifies with our ages. It has been discovered that most illnesses are connected to unrelieved stress; for example, anxiety disorders, bowel disorders etc.
If you’re experiencing stress symptoms, you have gone beyond your optimal stress level; you need to reduce the stress in your life and/or improve your ability to manage it.
Stress Symptoms include, but are not confined to:
Hair falling out
Anxiety attacks
Headaches
Fatigue
Loss of appetite
Increase of appetite
How Can I Manage Stress Better?
Discovering unrelieved stress and being alert of its consequence on our lives isn’t adequate for reducing its damaging effects. Just as there are many sources of stress, there are many possibilities for its management.
However, all require work in order to be effective. Changing the source of stress and/or changing your reaction to it. So you may be questioning how do you do it? Let me show you.
1. Become alert of Your Stressors and Your Emotional and Physical Reactions.
Notice your stress and its beginnings. Don’t disregard it. Don’t gloss over your troubles.
Determine what events stress you out. How much do these events mean to you?
Determine how your body reacts to the stress. Do you become tense or physically upset? If so, in what specific ways?
2. Recognize What You Can Change.
Can you change your stressors by avoiding or eliminating them altogether? Can you reduce their intensity over time?
Can you shorten your exposure to stress by taking a break, or leaving the physical premises?
Can you commit the time and energy required to making a change (goal setting, time management techniques, and delayed gratification strategies may be helpful here)?
3. Reduce the Intensity of Your Emotional Reactions to Stress.
The stress reaction is set off by your perception of danger and/or fears, physical danger or emotional danger, and fears of failure etc.
Are you looking at your stressors in enlarged terms and/or taking a challenging situation and making it a disaster?
Are you expecting to please everyone because I’m telling you that you can’t?
Are you overreacting and seeing things as absolutely critical and urgent all the time? Do you find you must always come out the winner in every situation?
Work at taking in more moderate views; try to see the stress as something you can deal with instead of something that overwhelms you.
Try to temper your excess emotions. Put the situation in perspective.
Do not labor on the negative aspects of everything find a positive in them if you can.
Take individual time to evaluate your surroundings clearly.
Take a deep breath when overly stressed and count backwards from 10.
Exercise a little bit or take a walk daily
4. Build Your Physical Reserves.
Eat well-balanced, nutritious meals.
Maintain your ideal weight or appearance.
Avoid nicotine, excessive caffeine, and alcohol.
Mix leisure with work. Take breaks and get away when you can.
Get enough sleep. Be as consistent with your sleep schedule as possible.
5. Maintain Your Emotional Reserves.
Build up some mutually positive friendships/relationships. Follow up on realistic goals which are important to you, rather than goals others have for you that you do not share because they won’t succeed. Expect some frustrations, failures, and regrets and let them go.
Always be kind and gentle with yourself be your own best friend.
Hopefully you’ve recognized just how simple achieving your goals can be if you set your mind to it.
Setting goals properly doesn’t have to be the most challenging thing that you can do because it can be very energizing. If you challenge yourself right and set time aside to set your goals, you can complete them successfully.
You’ve discovered that procrastination is your enemy when you trying to accomplish something in your life, and you have learned that goals can be set for just about every aspect of your life including family, relationships, finances, health/fitness etc.
Why should you waste your time daydreaming and hoping for a better life when you can go and get one right now? You don’t need to know anything other than what you have learned here on your way to a better future.
This concludes the series of articles on Setting Goals Effectively. You may start from the beginning of these helpful articles at: “Start Setting Goals and Change Your Life”.
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Effective goal setting starts and ends with time management. You must be able to balance your time in the healthiest way possible in order to accomplish your goals.
Most of us neglect to achieve goals because we “lack the time”.
The concept of time management has been in existence for more than 100 years. Regrettably the term “time management” creates a incorrect belief of what a person is able to do.
Time can’t be managed, time is uncontrollable and we can only handle ourselves and “our use of time.” That is all that can be performed. Time management is actually self management.
For effective time management, we need the ability to design, delegate, organize, direct and control every aspect of our lives just to find 30 minutes a day that is dedicated to something successful that is just for us.
There are familiar time wasters which need to be identified.
In order for a time management method to work, it is crucial to know what aspects of our personal management need to be developed. Otherwise what is the point in trying?
Below you will observe some of the most common reasons for reducing effectiveness in and about our lives. You may want to check off the ones which are causing to be the major obstacles to your own time management. These are referred to as your time stealers.
Identifying Your Time Stealers
Interruptions, for instance the telephone or TV (these are also distractions)
Interruptions, for example, guests
Meetings
Projects you should have had someone else perform for you
Procrastination and indecisiveness
Acting without complete information
Addressing with other people’s issues or troubles
Some kind of personal crisis, for example, family member is sick or injured.
Unclear communication
Insufficient knowledge
Unclear objectives and priorities
Lack of preparation
Stress, anxiety and fatigue
Inability to say “No” to anyone with a request
Personal disorganization
There are quite a few isn’t there? Fortunately there are strategies you can apply to manage your time in a better way and be more in control and reduce stress, but you can analyze your time and see how you may be both the reason and the answer to your time challenges.
Below, we will look at time management issues in more detail.
1. Shifting Priorities and Crisis Management.
Management guru Peter Drucker says that “crisis management is actually the form of management preferred by most managers.” What is ironic is that actions taken before the crisis may have prevented it in the first place.
2. The Telephone
Have you ever had one of those days when you just had to answer the phone with “grand central station, how can I help you?” The telephone can be our greatest communication tool, but it can also be our greatest opposition to effectiveness if you don’t know how to control its hold over you.
3. Lack of Priorities/Objectives
This is likely the biggest and most crucial time waster. It affects all we do both professionally and personally. Those who achieve the most in a day know precisely what they want to accomplish beforehand.
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Unfortunately too many of us think that goals and objectives are annual things and not daily considerations. This results in too much time spent on the small things and not on the things which are crucial to our lives.
4. Trying Too Much.
Many people today feel that they have to accomplish everything yesterday and don’t give themselves sufficient time to do things the right way. This leads only to incomplete finished projects and no feeling of accomplishment as all things are done in a hurry and seem rushed to others.
5. Drop In Visitors
The five most harmful words that rob your time are “Have you got a minute?” Most people do it; co-workers, the boss, your peers, and your family and friends.
Recognizing how to deal with interruptions is one of the best skills you can learn.
6. Ineffective Delegation. Good delegation is considered a key skill in both managers and leaders of homes and work.
The best managers have an ability to delegate work to staff and family members to see to it that it is performed right. This is likely the best way of building a team’s moral and reducing your own workload at the same time.
The general rule is this; if someone else around you can do it 80% as well as you can, and then delegate it.
7. Procrastination
The biggest thief of time is not decision making but decision avoidance. By reducing the amount of procrastinating you do, you can considerably increase the total of active time available to you.
8. The Inability To Say “No!”
The general rule is; if some people can dump their work or troubles on to your shoulders, they will do it.
Some of the most stressed people around lack the skill to ‘just say no’ for fear of upsetting people. At times you must take care of yourself first.
9. Meetings
Studies have indicated that the average professional person spends about seventeen hours a week in meetings and about 6 hours in the preparation time and untold hours in the follow up.
There are many ways we can manage our time. I have recorded some strategies you can apply to manage your time in a better and more efficient manner. They are marked below.
1. Always Specify Your Goals as Clearly as Possible.
Do you find you are not executing what you want to do just because your goals have not been set the right way yet?
One of the factors which make successful and contented people stand out is their ability to work out what they want to accomplish and have written goals which they can review them constantly.
Your long term goals should impact on your daily activities and be included on your “to do” list. Without a goal or target, people tend to just drift off personally and professionally.
2. Analyze Your Use of Time
Are you spending sufficient time on the projects which although may not be urgent now, but on that you want to do to develop yourself or your career?
If you are constantly asking yourself “What can I do to make things easier for me right now?” it will help you to focus on ‘important tasks’ and stop responding to tasks which seem urgent (or pleasant to do) but carry no importance towards your goals.
Try getting and using a personalized calendar, setting reminders on your computer, cell phone or palm pilot.
3. Have a Plan
How can you accomplish your goals without a plan? I don’t even think that is realistic.
Most people know what they want but have no plan to achieve it except by plain hard work. What’s the point in doing hard work when you don’t know how to use it?
Your yearly plan should be reviewed daily and reset as your achievements are met. Successful people make lists constantly.
It enables them to stay on top of priorities and enable them to stay flexible to changing priorities. This should be done for both personal and business goals.
4. Action Plan Analysis
Problems will always occur when you set a plan. The value of a worthy plan is to identify them early and seek out solutions at once.
Good time management enables you to measure the progress towards your goals because “What you can measure, you can control”.
Always try to be proactive in the achievement of successfully managing your time.
Time management is not a hard matter to understand, but unless you are committed to building better time management methods into your daily routine you’ll only accomplish partial (or no) results and end up right back where you began.
The lesson that you need to learn is that the more time we spend planning our time and activities, the more time we will have for those activities.
By setting goals and getting rid of time wasters and doing this regular, you may find you will have additional time in the week to spend on those people and the activities most important to you.
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